Friday, July 29, 2011

My grandfather

The health condition of my grandpa worries me lately more as he’s losing his physical ability slowly and internal problem due to old age he’s in need to take care by someone now. Less than half a decade ago he was healthy and normal alike anyone in his age and only retired a decade before from his own café after we all forced him to take rest, which he was running for more than 2 decades after leaving his job as a cab driver and lorry driver early.
With my grandparents
(with my grandparents, taken in our last year’s visit to Valparai.)
Unlike earlier who was in his wheels always around touring South India as a cab driver, never out of town except seldom attending functions like grandma, their lives revolved around the café and bull shed which are adjacent to home. Only with the income of driving car and later with cattle and café he grows his four children – mom among one as a elder child, putting elder two into English medium and other two in state language, only my aunt (mom’s sister) went to college to do her B.sc and uncles did their diploma in automobile.

With the income of thus, he get my mom married by building her a new home replacing dad’s hut along with the savings among him, put everyone at surprise since my grandma and dad are siblings. Next he gets my aunt married in an enhancing manner with the help of uncle who had began his own garage in the land of great grandmother’s – dad’s mom, who’s also mother to my grandma.

Later it was uncles’ marriages, with our lives at almost comfort and welfare brings a lot of things unimagined to realize and it continues still with the realization of our dreams and wishes by exist. It’s quite nearly almost happens because of him and no one can deny that and I won’t allow anybody rejecting him and if he’s the director of our family then my uncle is the hero who did magic in our lives with the wand of love and affection towards us.

Today we miss him very badly and a place which never replaceable by anyone and I wish everyone gets such uncles in their lives to help in succeed and support in unconditional love and care. Sometimes grandpa recall the moment of me going out with him in childhood, pointing out the buildings we come across to express him my wish to built something like that one day and how I call him by nickname ‘thathu’ – which is a Tamil word for grandpa with least change in pronunciation.

I always like to have him around and take him wherever we go or he likes to go… but considering his troublesome health at judicious we haven’t did a long trip along with him after nearly a year before, now I willing to have him at home. Our homes about 2kms in distance, it wasn’t a problem checking with him and this time the grandma who take care of him is on a trip to Gujarat for 10 days is suppose to give us chance to have him along with us, but grandpa who doesn’t want to give us trouble thinking he might be adding burden to my parents who take care of me indeed, avoid to be.

I’m in need to convey he’s someone significant to me and more than anything, he’s my sweet grandfather who shows me lot of intense care, love and hazard free life. My heart craves for him to be stable good always and wish us everyone at our each step to success.

14 comments:

venus66 said...

Dear Jeevan, it's a beautiful write about your grandpa. Hope he will recover soon.My prayers for him. God Bless.

cyclopseven said...

This is a wonderful write, I would say a tribute Jeevan. May he regain his health. God bless.

Ash said...

Sending prayers and good wishes to your grandfather. Beautiful post Jeevan.

IRFANUDDIN said...

it feels so good Jeevan to see you writing about him with love n affection...i can understand your worry n concern about him...may he regain his lost health and get well soon....

you know this is what we miss now a days..."the feel of love n care for our elder ones", i wish all the youngsters have the same feelings like you have for your grandpa...

God bless,
irfan

Ramya Ranganathan said...

old age is scary..lots of insecurity feelings crops in..for example... the term 'burden'... As they say time heals!

My prayers and wishes you your family!

Kavi said...

Heres praying that he recovers quickly..

Ponniyinselvan said...

my prayers too

Rajesh said...

Great personality. My prayers are with with your grandfather.

Dawn said...

Dear Jeevan,
First of all hope you had a good birthday celebration with all your grand parents blessings as well :)
I read about your grand pa and feels that you are a lucky person to enjoy it at this age also their love and affection. I always craved for as I remember as a kid of 4 or so when I played with my grandpa and my grand mom was very strict so never got close there until it was her last moment and guess what in her memory loss situation also she only remembered me - by calling my name :) all her daughters were angry ...that all this we did while you are sick and you dont recognize us...I feel there is something thats called love and blessing that is there with me...you too have it.
Enjoy every moment...age is something we can't fight with all I can say is my prayers and best wishes for your grandpa's good health...you take care
Cheers

Priya said...

I missed saying good bye to both my grand mom while here and sometimes situations cannot make u fly when u r so far away. I do miss them even today. Enjoy the days with him and wish him good health. Sometimes we learn a lot more from them only.

geeth said...

My prayers for his good health.. take care.

eden said...

I hope he will recover soon. My prayers for him. Great post.

Babli said...

Excellent tribute for your grandfather. I am praying to God for your grandfather's speedy recovery. God Bless Him.

Jeevan said...

Thanks everyone for your wishes and prayers for my grandfather on his good health. Old age is something we could only do least to make sure on health and recover to latter or early stage is impossible after certain.

There are many forgets the significant of elders as they grow up and become independent they lack sense to reconnect with those who lifted us above. I could see many incidents related to this and when even children could not give prior to parents I wonder how come grandchildren? Its parent’s responsibility to teach children how to respect and receive elders with feeling themselves burden in mind. Nice to see this post touches some of your emotions related to your grandparents.

What dawn says is very true and after certain period or conscious the love and care for grandchildren doubles us than their own children and I could remember by grandma wakeup call after her surgery before we she leave us within a week . Her last wishes where perhaps to see us. Thanks so much for sharing friends.