Thursday, November 15, 2012

Joint pain and Joint family

This week I received a supplement on orthopedics along with ‘the week’ magazine and it reveals many a causes and treatment for joint pains and knee replacement and one of the reason that doctor’s point out make me feel hit the nail on the head. Apart the active lifestyle and life expectancy, fall of joint family has been noticed by the doctors for the increase of joint pain, where one remain to take care of things independently.

I wonder how true the joints has been an important part in our lives to make a move and it should remain forever in motion with emotional cord chained within near and dear ones in family. I truly acknowledge the doctor’s perspective on joint family and I have a reason too to come to an agreement and the supplement came on time in my hand when I could feel the pain (not at the knee) of disjoint at heart.

I have experience on living as a joint family during my childhood and those days were never been same again and we were accompanying my uncle’s family (family of dad’s bro) and grandmother then. In the 1bhk house of own, we divided the huge kitchen with a barrier to make it as a bedroom for my uncle family and the arrival of aunt was very helpful at mom in sharing the household chores and taking care of us as kids.

Later my cousin born, we are forced to shift to ground floor of the house to give more space for them and even then we were like live together at through and practice and no event were celebrated at parted. There were some renovation and rebuilding take place at house in later days and we still continued to support each other at despite desperate and share common festivals and celebration and even after we shifted the location for my comfort my mind kept joint with them.

First time I feel the pain more in lately when they decided to go on individual basis on taking the custom related to Deepavali and for me the matter is not the custom or ritual related, which I don’t have faith but sharing the festival spirit and happiness. I believe the festivals are created for get together people and sharing the moment of happiness and love, but their decision to disjoint at traditional level makes me feel despair and anguish.

The sharing means not only about happiness or celebration but also involves helping each other when it comes to work or preparation of stuffs; and in a joint family there’s much chance for such tendency and if one wasn’t well the other take care to give rest for another to quick recovery. This is the natural state of a joint family and during this festival season we really miss the helping hands from our aunt, and mom solely had to prepare the Deepavali ‘sweet and snacks’ to share with relatives and neighbors.

I always wish for a joint family and it has a lot of positive aspects on life and the main reason was sharing and it may sound selfish if I say that a person with disability or old age, the joint family becomes a great backbone for their survey in case our parents or the children of old age find stubborn or struck with other chores. The joint family is one of a dream that often haunt me into the thoughts and I know it is impossible perhaps there is only way of disjoining families these day, I hope the best gift that life gives for us is the joint family – where there’s lack or less joint pains.

10 comments:

TexWisGirl said...

i am sorry for the distance or separation you feel from other family units. having moved far away from my relatives when i was 20, i have become used to missing and sharing family get-to-gethers and celebrations.

George said...

I'm glad you have such wonderful family support. Over here our families are so scattered that they often are not in a position to help someone who needs help.

ashok said...

well analyzed Jeevan

Betsy Adams said...

Hi There, George and I have each other... Both of our families (kids and families) are not close by --and we don't see any of them very often. We do have a great family relationship with George's 100 yr. old father --and visit him every couple of weeks.

Sometimes I do yearn for more family involvement --but that will never happen. SO--I'll just enjoy my life the best I can with the present situation.
Betsy

ladyfi said...

It's such a shame that in the West, many people have lost sight of joint families.

eden said...

My family (in my side)is very far from us and we get only to see them not very often. However, I learnt to live that way. This is the life that I chose living far away from them.But I miss them so much.

Anupama K. Mazumder said...

Joints in the family ties - most important!

Destination Infinity said...

There are many advantages and disadvantages of both living in joint families and not living in one. People often ignore the advantages of joint families and hence your post is well analyzed.

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Rajesh said...

In a joint family everything shared, not only happiness but also pain.

Meoww said...

Kids are becoming more and more independent and strong but lack the capacity to adjust and respect which is vital for all. Joint families or atleast time spent with extended families will help with their social growth...