Monday, December 10, 2012

Depression to depart

Man, men/women really needs some rest or rear seat ride sometime in progress of life, however serious we take our journey without some break life becomes tiresome and thinking overload sent to mental tragedy or disorder. This is not something new I am says, but the problem related to it shows many graphical sign boards these days and each hour becoming rush hours, there’s no time or least for relief and relaxation and whatever the occupation might be – IT, industrial or farmer, long working hours or days produces abundant stress.

Why I think about this because, one such prolongs hard work and mentally stress sent one of my mother’s aunt to oblivion and become so insane, which had led her to death yesterday. She is one of a kind hearted whose stretch is immeasurably in exposing love and affection towards others and a great hard worker and since being a farmer women, she always work into the fields and drive the cattle to graze every day. Not more than age of 60, she lost her consciousness almost lately exiting from the symptoms of childish and forgetfulness in recent past or less than 4 years – when I last saw her, they said that it’s all because of her contract brain, perhaps due to prolong working under the sunshine and greatly depressed.

I always love visiting her home in village near Thiruporur and you don’t need a reason because, village means a lot to me and I believe they are the unlimited source of living and there isn't a place like village, beautiful as well touch with lives. We occasionally visit their village during summer and mattu Pongal, in the company of my cousins; we enjoy spending the day partially at their fields, near the lake and pump-set – one of the fascinating things of village and fun indeed. I haven’t taken bath in their pump-set, but that used to be nostalgic observing things happening around and recollecting memories of childhood where I used to be active on the front.

What really bothers me was that we only visited her on a previous Sunday and this Sunday she’s no more. See how life become too shot and she wasn't physically ill to die, but lose her track to slip into a pond near her home at the early hours of morning when no one was wake up to see. I heard they searched for her everywhere and only by evening they found her lifeless body floating on the pond, it was really a tragedy and when we visited her on Sunday, she couldn't identify anybody and kept coming around their home. Mom was very glad that she could visit her before she expire, even she feel sorrow for her early death.  Mom used to be her favorite child to visit her often during childhood which she always cherishes, telling to me.

She survived by two daughters and sons, and both her daughters were married at age above 30 when she was nearly losing her conscious, and it seems that the main cause for her depression was postponing  of her elder girl’s marriage – who being a dark skin holder, many refused to marry her. But I should appreciate her courage, even though many eliminate her she stayed strong and their family was very supportive and there was a togetherness between the siblings which seldom seen anywhere. I hope her early departure is also good, so that she doesn't need to face discriminate and reckless treatment imposed by society and circumstance. Hope her past seize their dear ones memory forever.

10 comments:

Betsy Adams said...

Oh how sad, Jeevan.. I am so sorry to hear about the death of one of your aunts. That is so very very sad... I am truly sorry for you and the family.
Betsy

ladyfi said...

Oh gosh - what a terrible tragedy. So sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and her family.

TexWisGirl said...

oh, jeevan, i am so very sorry! first, that your great aunt was driven to madness or depression, and worse that she has died so tragically. bless your entire family.

Renu said...

may her soul rest in peace!

eden said...

I am sorry to hear of your loss. May she rest in peace.

Kirtivasan Ganesan said...

It is very sad.
I hope you and your family keep positive outlook.

Farida said...

I am sorry about the death of your aunt. I'm sure she is in a better place now. Stay strong!

Krishna said...

very sad...

Ponniyinselvan said...

//I hope her early departure is also good,//
truly said. For many ,death is real liberation.I have heard lot about this aunt from your mom,and she narrated how once she was lost somewhere and couldn't give the location of her house which gave lot of worries to her children,.But departure will give them lot of sadness.Solid condolence.
karthik+amma

Annmarie Pipa said...

oh dear...this is very tragic. I am sorry for your loss.