I observe most of the time, people advise rather than show care. I do not complain here, and my concern was that in place of care, why do you do log advice. For someone who suffers, only kind words and emotional support would comfort, in the first place, and that does not mean you shouldn't advise; there are places, where rather than being wise, warmth upholds life.
I believe advice helps in the development, and that comes along with the experience is worth listening to, and care is what reassures our presence and those in need, often those in distress. But in the name of advice, some criticize people when they are in difficulty - piercing the existing wound rather than applying a gentle ointment over them.
For a crying child, the mother's warmth is the first and best thing to console; an adult is no different from a child when he broke down, and his anticipation is a few comforting words, and after that, any kind of advice would be appropriate. In the world, there isn't an easy thing as advice - a thing that everyone gives us, or we give others either we or the other like it or not.
In place of emotion, how could you place knowledge? There should be advice based on improving one's condition rather than worsening in a tone of accusing someone. There are ways to measure or test one's mentality, but the level of emotion is relevant to heart and love, and your intelligence does not work when looking for relief from the thing that clings to your heart.
Some people anxiously wait for someone to fall to make fun of them. Finding fault in everything someone does could be a disease, and nothing is possible without a failure; just because you are right in a few instances does not mean you should always be, and those who make mistakes will do only that.
I think love is the basis of care, and no one could care without the same. Even those who advise us, have based on our care, the way they express themselves can also be harsh at times, as pointed out before comforting the person listening. I think this from the point of most of the time because someone needs or anticipates care when they feel down, our words and comforting should raise their spirit and courage to stand up rather than fed up with our advice.
Take Care
Advise is only good when someone requests it ~ Caring is what we all need ~ lovely post ~ you are a wonderful person and very caring ~ namaste,
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We all needs care and love but it is easier to give advice than to show care and love. A good reminder not to freely give advice unless the person asks for it.
ReplyDelete...caring is an important part of life.
ReplyDeletePeople who receive advice or even criticism should also be empathetic and should understand that they are doing it because they care about us. Besides, the advisor may have been in a similar difficult situation earlier...
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Advice should be given if asked but love and care are more important.
ReplyDeleteI think you said it well...along with love, there are times we just need someone to listen.
ReplyDeleteI care. I give suggestions. But never advice. But if people don't care. I don't care too.
ReplyDeleteWell articulated post jeevan
ReplyDeleteOne should never give advice freely unless the person asked for it. Otherwise people would perceive u as 'showing off' with your method of dealing with things.
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