One of our grandfathers (Dad’s uncle) passed away yesterday and I really
wish I write about this gent who I expected to stay longer, despite his age –
he turns 80 this year – he was healthy and fit as well with a clear and
conscious mind-set is bit harder to find out these days. He was someone
straightforward throughout his life and talks what’s in his mind whether the
people listen likes or not and because of this some could feel disturbed or
annoyed but he was mostly right on things and say what’s good for others which
sometime would be hinting their mistakes and stroke pride to make feel bitter
experience. Thinking back I too have felt disregarded sometime listening
through his speech but when I could understand things the truth in his words made
senses despite his difference in attitude.
He had a diploma in civil engineering and had worked and retried from Tamil
Nadu Housing Board dept. and only with his earnings he built a house and grown
his 4 children (where 3 were graduates) and married them all and 3 were married
within relations. After he was married
with dad’s cousin sister he was fond of my dad and dad used to visit his home
to do maths in his school days and all our constructions were executed under
his instructions and planning and he’s someone never compromise on the quality
and strength of a building. He had a special care for me and used to enquire
about me wherever he meets mom (who was named by him, as Lilly) or dad and one
time he took me to one of his neighbours (practicing touch healing) whom he
believed could do something on my disability, after seeing someone being
healed. But it was quite nonsense method and I don’t want to narrate the
stupidity, and what I really saw there was a grandfather’s love and his
intention to get me cured in any means.
He was a healthy person all his life and a
never changed personality, adjustable to the situation and practice
friendliness with everybody. He shares the age of my maternal grandfather, who
passed in 2015. His fitness and active lifestyle is something would inspire
anybody despite the ages, and even after a cardiac attack, less than a decade
back, he become more conscious on his health and food habit to sustain deed. We
never expected him to die very soon, despite being very stable for his age, and
active till he experience urinary infection and backbone squeeze few months
back. He was on medicine and cast to produce much trouble and pain but on one
expected the problem he experienced was a sign of cancer at 4th
stage. Last time when I saw him (in September) he motivated me to do whatever I
could rather stay idle. His last words still resound in my ears. Hope he rest
at peace and sail through our memories.