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A simple colorful stage decor at sister's marriage last month. It was in between the floral decor and traditional pots and lamps the marriage ceremony was happened.  

Sister’s Wedding @ Mamallapuram

My sister got married on Friday at our ancestral town Mamallapuram, about 45 km from here on ECR and I attended both the events – the reception at night and marriage in morning – by staying a night from a guesthouse there. Though the wedding turned out eventful and content packed there was something couldn’t make feel relaxed or comfort at certain level i.e. the wedding hall was in the first floor with no lift!  It was a marriage happened within kinship and my sister (cousin) is married to her maternal uncle’s son and it was their desire to go together in life and we all approved their decision after small hesitations, since we were looking for a bridegroom outside the relative circle this was unexpected and we couldn’t say no as it was her life and she has all rights to decide her companion and thus marriage was fixed and following an engagement in February.

My sister was sent off  early in the afternoon (of Thursday) to Mamallapuram to get ready for the evening reception and bride inviting and we planned to leave by 4 pm in evening so that we could relax before the event begin by 6 pm. But we left home only by 6! Though we reached there in an hour things were to be hurried up. We had booked two vans for the relatives, friends and neighbors to cover the distance also arrived late to delay the pace and my sister went directly to the nearest temple from the beauty parlor - as per the custom, the bride will be invited to the wedding hall following a procession from temple, either by car or walk about, which signifies the beginning of wedding process in Indian culture. Already the crowd perched the hall when we arrived and there wasn’t time for anyone to spare me to transfer me to the marriage hall in first floor and it was packed further to make transfer difficult, so I settled in the ground floor courtyard where couple of rows seated and a shamiana tent was spread out with popcorn and cotton candy stalls installed where people thronged despite age differences.

I happened to meet and see many people during the occasion, where many of them were long seen and as I seated in a corner some couldn’t notice me as I did but glad there was a LED screen placed in the courtyard where I watched the live happening on the reception. The dining hall was in ground floor so it wasn’t an issue to have dinner but the tables aren’t comfortable for me and I was to use my regular wheelchair tray and plate instead eating from banana leaf, which takes a special place in our festivals.  Being late to the venue and beginning of the event it extended beyond 10 pm, when we had our dinner and moved to the room, which is a walkable distance from the wedding hall   that I covered in wheelchair.  I couldn’t participate in the wedding reception but I was content attending the special occasion of my sister and I was transfer to the wedding hall in the morning to watch the ceremony with help of my brothers and his friends.  The wedding was attended by close relatives alone so it wasn’t much difficult to transfer me by shifting to a chair and then to wheelchair, I got to watch things happening on the stage from the first row.

But what really turned out difficult was the timing. The marriage ceremony that held between 6 to 7.30am is quite an inconvenient for us whose wakeup time is not less than 8 am and for the 6 am ceremony I waked up at 5 but still went half a way through the marriage rite. The brides sat on the decorated stage in traditional wears of Dhoti and Saree and I felt they looked beautiful and fresh in the morning than in the elaborated makeup for the night reception. The marriage is conducted by the bridegroom family, so we haven’t to decide anything and the wedding hall was also their choice as it located very close to their house. I feel there was something missing which I couldn’t say what but I could transparently see the happiness on my sister’s face despite the exhaustion went through wedding process. We couldn’t spend much time with the brides rather hurriedly taking photos, the couple were sent off to Tirupati temple (about 200 km from Mamallapuram) as soon the breakfast is over and we moved out of the marriage hall and check out the room and fired back to home. Both the dinner and breakfast was good enough and this was quite a wedding I attended after a cousin’s marriage in 2012. I hope my sister led a happy married life and being a known family I believe she feels the comfort of home.

Our house illuminated in colorful led lights for the wedding

Apart the celebration of marriage, the day out there was terrific and the weather was burning to ashes once out of the wedding hall! The air con in car couldn’t control the heat wave even at high speed and I couldn’t remember how we reached home so was the sultry weather blurred the senses. We checked out our guesthouse room (Sri Murugan) by 11 am and I felt it was too pricey for a night with two to three cots in a room with no blankets and air con with no control to reduce cold. Moreover they denied allowing our pet dog, which they agreed when our relative inquired and so we booked the room. I had no chance to capture any photos and what you see here were few shot by mom.

A beatific experience

Families get together at home on Monday, where close relatives were invited for lunch on the memorial day of great grandfather. Not often I could get chance by having everyone at same time, every year on this day and on least some other time we (no, I) get-together with close relatives. Not every time my dear cousin sister would joining with us on occasion like this, where she mostly would be away with her parent, but it was rarely and I was happy on her presence when others come. She is one, more than anything to me, and not to miss for any reason, but I would agree for what ever reason she has to be away from us. I feel I could understand her, but fail mostly where I can’t and she well knows me how I react for what and what could be my thought on which. I was been on thoughts about her these days and some imaginations of uncle being alive, living with her and the existing happier life more than before. This is only a desire now I know which won’t comes true, but no one can stop it flowing into mine, which are some beautiful thoughts I enjoy whenever it flows.

Maya is more attentive with others, esp. my sis was so fondling on her and was playful. It was uneasy for mom and aunties to get her away from disturbing the preparation of lunch and harder to change her interest from biting the vegetables. She never is silent being left alone inside rooms, with in seconds starts to make loud noise in tender throat. Cousins who are more wished to see maya, but haven’t been because of annual exams, by now they have seen the pictures of maya taken last evening. The weekend was truly bored, and I was feeling Monday as Sunday where I can’t concentrate particularly and to increase the moment, rain was poring heavily and the cool climate in evening sends us pleasant.

My sister and pup maya

Most of the relatives left before evening and without steady I was expecting to take dear ones to beach. No more, they have there own plans to reach home and tried to not disappoint and to disclose my wish, asked grandpa who is likely to come with me. After dropping sis and aunty at there stops, we drove to beach where it was covered by cooler breeze and waves of low pressure into sea. There were clouds passing above sea like steam train yet release smoke and looking beyond to wonder is space and sea that never ends. Like my sis, I love my grandfather whom I wish for a healthy long life, but it disturbs me from his heart troubles. It was long time wish that exist today being alone with grandpa and grandma the place I loved almost. Beach is the only place I often visit and those times looking at children with grandparents it desires me in replacing them, but it was too late I have grown and situation not left to play. It was there occupation that never gives opportunity for entertaining in those days. Today they are occupied with television and resting inside home, where they never moves out unnecessary; and I feel it is necessary for them to come out for a change and enjoy what they forget in life.

My grandparent's

I am more interest having both of them with us and taking care to give trouble free life, but they are not willing to move from the place they lived almost there lives. The evening was beautiful for me, is the weather to add the platform of beach paradise and grandparents to give company. I will always looking for such circumstance to come often and you dear friends pls wish me for that.

To bring back

Distance is not that much, your heart`s
awe taking you away from me
I know the awful distance maintained,
I homologate whatever reason u must tell.
Unconditional innocent fancy never ever
adjusted to the reality, continue to exist.
I can`t assure breezing throughout your life
and that stop me expressing the right

Upcoming are celebration times, I miss you
and wish you to bring memorable times
months gone, I met you last, still thinking
wherever the name breaks in relation
these are merely avoidable in life, where
the same days of colors flows allover, and
frustrate stands along in experience

the brass lamp of our family
glows the festival of lights, brighter
more in your flowing smiles, and
the rejoice of lightening glister crackers.
Those movements are not away, if world
thinks about your desire of living, before
the vivid belief dim lighten forever… …..